Welcome to the Triarius Project
I’m Dr. Allan Kalamir. A Gen-X doctor who, like many of my generation in their mid forties, was a hard working, devoted husband and father.
Life seemed to be going well, and then slowly but surely, my marriage gradually began unravelling despite all my best efforts. Irreconcilable differences ultimately led to divorce, leaving me in significant debt, deteriorating health, purposeless and a shattered identity. Like many of my generation, I could not understand how or why this was happening. I was in a very dark place. My world had utterly collapsed around me. I started to believe it might be better off without me.
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Our youtube channel contains a series of videos designed to help you make sense of your predicament, and be inspired by heroes from history any myth.
Inspirational Quotes
Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never—in nothing, great or small, large or petty—never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.
If you’re going through hell- Keep going.
Now is the time to get serious about living your ideals. How long can you afford to put off who you really want to be? Your nobler self cannot wait any longer. Put your principles into practice – now. Stop the excuses and the procrastination. This is your life! […] Decide to be extraordinary and do what you need to do – now.
If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.
Why is this so unbearable? Why can’t I endure it? You’ll be embarrassed to answer.
Sometimes, even to live is an act of courage.
Here is a rule to remember in future, when anything tempts you to feel bitter: not ‘This is misfortune’, but ‘To bear this worthily is good fortune.’
A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor can a man be perfected without trials.
First, you tell yourself what kind of person you want to be, then you do what you have to do.
Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle. Some things are within your control and some things are not
I cannot remember the books I have read any more than the meals I have eaten. Even so, they have made me.
Associate with people who are likely to improve you. Welcome those who you are capable of improving. The process is a mutual one: men learn as they teach.
We hear only questions to which we are capable of finding an answer
If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?
Does what’s happened keep you from acting with justice, generosity, self-control, sanity, prudence, honesty, humility, straightforwardness, and all other qualities that allow a person’s nature to fulfil itself? So remember this principle when something threatens to cause you pain: the thing itself was no misfortune at all; to endure it and prevail is great good fortune.
The reason why we have two ears and only one mouth is so we might listen more and talk less
Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats.
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way
Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be, be one.
The wise man is neither raised up by prosperity nor cast down by adversity; for always he has striven to rely predominantly on himself, and to derive all joy from himself
Be silent for the most part, or, if you speak, say only what is necessary and in a few words.
If it’s endurable, then endure it. Stop complaining.
Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.
The willing are led by fate, the reluctant dragged.
When you arise in the morning think of what a privilege it is to be alive, to think, to enjoy, to love.
The robbed that smiles steals something from the thief.
Be tolerant of others and strict on yourself.
It can ruin your life only if it ruins your character. Otherwise it cannot harm you — inside or out.
The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.
Don’t allow yourself to be heard any longer griping about public life, not even with your own ears!
Understand: people will constantly attack you in life. One of their main weapons will be to instill in you doubts about yourself. They will often disguise this as their objective opinion, but invariably it has a political purpose – they want to keep you down.
We must take a higher view of all things, and bear with them more easily: it better becomes a man to scoff at life than to lament over it.
How do you move forward? One step at a time. How do you lose weight? One kilo at a time. How do you write a book? One page at a time. How do you build a relationship? One day at a time. In a world obsessed with speed, never forget things of real worth and value take time.
Give yourself fully to your endeavours. Decide to construct your character through excellent actions and determine to pay the price of a worthy goal. The trials you encounter will introduce you to your strengths.
The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.
Everyone faces up more bravely to a thing for which he has long prepared himself, sufferings, even, being withstood if they have been trained for in advance. Those who are unprepared, on the other hand, are panic-stricken by the most insignificant happenings.
What is to give light must endure burning.
I have to die. If it is now, well then I die now; if later, then now I will take my lunch, since the hour for lunch has arrived – and dying I will tend to later.
Just keep in mind: the more we value things outside our control, the less control we have.
We must take a higher view of all things, and bear with them more easily: it better becomes a man to scoff at life than to lament over it.
Progress is not achieved by luck or accident, but by working on yourself daily.
He who angers you conquers you.
Self-control is the chief element in self-respect, and self-respect is the chief element in courage.
The more time you spend in your discomfort zone, the more your comfort zone will expand.
Concentrate every minute like a Roman— like a man— on doing what’s in front of you with precise and genuine seriousness, tenderly, willingly, with justice. And on freeing yourself from all other distractions.
All you need are these: certainty of judgement in the present moment; action for the common good in the present moment; and an attitude of gratitude in the present moment for anything that comes your way.